Common Myths

The misconceptions about Domestic Violence listed are common to people of all cultures and backgrounds across the globe.

Myth: Family violence only happens in poor families and women of color

Family violence happens in all kinds of family and relationships. Persons of any class, culture, religion, sexual orientation, marital status, age, and sex can be victims or perpetrators of domestic violence.

Myth: Some people deserve to be hit.

No one deserves to be abused.The only person responsible for the abuse is the abuser.

Physical violence, even among family members, is wrong and against the law.

Myth: Alcohol, drug abuse, stress, and mental illness cause family violence.

Abusers often say they use these excuses for their violence. (Michigan Judicial Institute, Domestic Violence Benchbook, 1998, p. 1.6 – 1.7)

Other Myths:
Educated people can never be victims or perpetrators of DV.
Happens only due to the influence of alcohol.
If they didn’t call the police or tell someone all this time, they must be
exaggerating or lying.
She is mostly to blame